‘Conscious uncoupling’ is the practical version of “Until death do us part” following the reality of divorce, Katherine Woodward Thomas

Written By: Eesha

Conscious uncoupling is the up-to-date and viable guidebook in the modern world break-up. Originated by marriage and family therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas in 2011, this guide is a step-by-step road map for how to break up in a way that does minimal damage to all involved. Yes couples, you read that right! A clear solution for how separating couples can create new, cooperative and life affirming agreements that set everyone up to win, is the brand new “Until death do us part”.

Arguing how our mind is prone to the notion of destructive and painful separations, Ms. Thomas instead claims that breakup should be seen as an opportunity to turn the emotional pain into “a catalyst for making a breakthrough in the way you show up in your life and in your next relationship”.

Gwyneth Paltrow’s recent announcement of separation with Coldplay frontman Chris Martin showed belief, and religiously followed the concept of ‘conscious coupling’ – two words being hailed ‘the term of 2014’ after Paltrow used – for a smooth and friendly divorce. Paltrow was undeniably aware of the true meaning of the term. However, the psychotherapist who created the concept said she has never met or worked with the actress and doesn’t recall her enrollment in the five-week online course. She was also not credited in Paltrow’s announcement which was curious to Ms. Thomas as well. This didn’t offend the psychotherapist, but she was just a little taken by surprise.

Anyhow, she approached this piece of news enthusiastically. One strength of Conscious Uncoupling is that its author walked the similar path. She has endured her share of wretched flailing after break-ups. After Paltrow used the phrase, it opened up to a huge amount of audience who aspire to a better way of ending their union. Everyone is now utterly familiar with her slogan for supposed low-stress divorce, and that is what concerns Ms. Thomas.

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