STRONGEST WARRIOR OF THE UNIVERSE – MOTHER
What’s The Importance of a Mother
“Duniya me sabse bada yodha maa hoti hai” a viral dialogue from the superhit south Indian movie KGF, which meant “Strongest warrior in the universe is a mother”. As thrilling as the dialogue is, we rarely understand how much truthful this sentence is. Mother is any woman that takes care of a child more than herself who’d give her life before her child. Her prayers and love wraps her child even after her death.
Mother’s love shapes cultures and individuals. Mothers are timeless teachers in the classroom of life . Women especially mothers are the most influential educators. They bequeath to us timeless wisdom, a legacy so precious and valuable. Mothers have often shaped our world from the cradle, by rocking, nurturing and instructing children to grow up to make life changing and history- making accomplishments. For every person, there is a mother behind who fostered her child’s sensibilities to their full potential. Mothers remain some of our most powerful teachers in the hands-on laboratory of everyday living. Of all their many attributes…all that comes down to is the heart – a mother’s heart. It has everything to do with the tenderness and toughness, the compassion and conscientiousness of the heart. There is nothing quite comforting as having our mother’s arm wrapped around us when we are sad, lonely, or afraid.
What No One Tells About Becoming a Mother
Delving deeper into “matrescence,” the transition into motherhood . Like adolescence, it is a transitionary period. Being pregnant is like going through puberty all over again: her hormones go nuts, her hair and skin don’t behave the way she’d like, and she develops a new relationship with a body that seems to have a mind of its own. The difference? Everyone understands that adolescence is an awkward phase. But during matrescence, people expect her to be happy while she’s losing control over the way she looks and feel.
Some universal aspects to the psychological narrative of matrescence — the emotional “through lines” that women experience.
A feeling that comes up in the roles and relationships she’s most invested in, because they’re always a juggling act between giving and taking. Most of the time, the experience of motherhood is not good or bad, it’s both good and bad.
Fantasy vs. Reality:
Her imagination about pregnancy and motherhood is informed by observations of her own mother, female relatives, friends, and women in her community and culture. Fantasies may be powerful enough that reality disappoints if it doesn’t align with her vision.
Guilt, Shame and “The Good Enough Mother”:
There’s also the ideal mother in her mind. Many women think that “good enough” (a phrase coined by the pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott) is not acceptable, because it sounds like settling. But striving for perfection sets she up to feel shame and guilt.
All mothering is inter-generational: for better and for worse, her maternal identity is founded in her mother’s style, and her’s in her mother’s. Whether she parent her child as her mother parented she, or adopt a different mothering style, becoming a mother gives she a beautiful (and sometimes painful) opportunity for a do-over. In a way, she get to re-experience her own childhood in the act of parenting, repeating what was good, while trying to improve upon what she think she can do better.
Her friends and family — even her spouse or partner — will be competing for her attention with her baby. Motherhood will also compete with the time, energy and resources she use to invest in into her own eating, exercise, recreation, organization, sexuality, finances, and work. She’ll have to navigate a shift in her role and relationship to all of these people and places, and herself.
Motherhood is not all about pregnancy. How much a mother loves her child seems to be a matter of individual differences in their own ability to love or in the timing of their family formation, not biological bond. An adoptive mother to her child is as important as any other mother to a child is.
As quoted by Dr. A P J Abdul Kalam “When mother is happy, family is happy. When family is happy, nation is happy.” He said these words remembering his mother Ashiamma Jainulabiddin , the lady that moulded one of the strongest man the nation has ever seen. Yes! Its possible mothers, they create the nation. On behalf of Vamaindia and crew we celebrate motherhood and wish every mothers a very happy mother’s day.
Written By – Anagha Nair